Only you

I just don’t want to have sex with just you



okay if you are in a nail salon with your girlfriend, telling me that you want to read my blog and it was you that responded to it after i told you it was about sex, and you respond by saying just you and me and not her. eh….maybe you will be thrown overboard on that cruise you are taking her. or wait is she taking you. 

so this ignorant man continues to tell me that if a normal couple with the openness and transparency (and its just them two in the relationship) one of them would cheat. just like if they were swingers, whose to say they won’t cheat either.

of course i like to try to defend or back up what I’m talking about in the swinger lifestyle and he said that whose to say the other person isn’t swinging in a swinging relationship. 

of course i ended the conversation by giving him a nose wax. 

the double standard but jealous

so I have been approached with different scenarios from various classmates in the kink lifestyle.

the double standard

girl has an admirer and she is interested in him but also has a primary

her primary said its okay for her to go out and “date” the guy and hook up and primary does not need to be there

she on the other hand, wants to be there when her primary is in the similar situation

she says that since primary is ok with her going out and he doesnt want to be there that she will be more comfortable or it is justifying for her to do it.

however, she would want to be with him or have the ability to show up on his date at any moment.

so as curious as i am, i ask my primary…
will you be okay with me playing or dating someone outside of our home without you.

hahah primary response was no. he would be jealous.

my response would be the same.

so how does this fall into swinging. what difference does it make if you are trying to get to know the guy or the couple and then not try to get jealous?

why is it better for both to do it and not one?